Friday, May 17, 2013

Life Gets In The Way

Do you ever plan to write a post and just sit in front of your computer, staring blankly at the screen?  This is where I am at lately.  I have several ideas floating around in my head, but somehow they never make their way out my fingertips onto the keyboard.  They usually just get lost in the jumbled, stressed out mess that is my brain at the moment.

My father's illness is taking a toll on our entire family, and I know that we are just at the beginning of this journey.  Our lives have been put on hold and all of our energy is focused on his health and well being, which is the least I can do for the greatest man in my life. Each day we have left with him is a blessing that I will cherish.

But, it does tend to diminish my creativity and consume my thoughts.  I would like to keep Retro Gran as a happy place, a refuge from every day life, if you will.  Lately, my posts have become sporadic in their scheduling because I am trying to maintain the atmosphere I hope to portray here, but my heart is far from being in a happy place.  When the mood and time allows, I try to seize the opportunity and create several posts at once before the moment is lost again.  I hope that you, my dear readers, will be understanding of this and stick around.

With that, I would like to leave you with lots of love and happy thoughts.  Here is a photograph of one of my grandsons enjoying his time on the beach.

Toddler playing on the beach
Sean and his rubber ducky having a grand time at the ocean.  Photo taken by me.


  1. Dear Denise, I'm really sorry that things are challenging for you and your family right now. I completely understand what you mean about how certain moods and situations that occur offline can hamper how you feel - and how productive you're able to be - online. I find the best thing to do is not to force it. Your (writing) muse is there, she may just be taking a well deserved breather in the midst of what you're going through.

    I personally have a five minute rule. If, despite having a fun idea for a post, I sit down and nothing happens (aka, the words don't come rushing out) after five minutes, I walk away (figuratively, if not literally, speaking). I know that forcing myself to write when I'm not in the mood won't create the kind of content I'm happy with, and it's better sometimes to write nothing than to write something that your heart isn't in. I might wait half a day, a day, or even a week (calling on my cache of "in the wings" posts for such times), however long it takes, but sooner or later the ability to write precisely the kind of posts you want to always returns (usually, I find, when one's troubles are lifted a bit). I know it will for you too, my dear friend.

    Huge hugs & tons of understanding,
    ♥ Jessica

  2. Hello sweet mama,

    No need to explain. You need to put all your focus on the task at hand and at keeping positive and doing all the amazing things you do for your family. My prayers are with your father and hope he remains strong throughout the process. Hugs to you!

    xox Bunny

  3. That is such a cute photo. We live near the beach, and when my youngest was that age she hated sand and insisted on being carried at the beach. Now at 8 she even goes into the mud and covers herself. Yuch! How we change!
    Thinking of you, take care, Deb xx

  4. I am so very sorry to hear about your father. I can't imagine the pain and heart ache you must be experiencing.

    I am guilty of not posting with consistency but rather a rash of post and then silence. I won't blame you or stop reading your blog because you do the same.

    As for ideas. I normally start a post and leave it in my draft area until I am feeling more inspired. That way the idea doesn't just go away.

  5. I'm so sorry to hear about your father. Worry and caring for someone can sap all the energy and creativity out of life. Just wanted to say I'm thinking happy thoughts for you, and hope you have a happy day/moment/second!
    ~xoxo, CoriLynn

  6. Thanks ladies for all of the kind words and understanding. It truly is a blessing.


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