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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Long Lasting Romance

vintage wedding couple

Today is my 21st wedding anniversary, and because of this, I decided to explore the topic of romance and a classic view on relationships.  This is our fifth and final segment in this series, so if you missed the others you can find them here with parts one, two, three, and four.

The strength and depth of a longstanding, loving relationship is something to behold.  In this installment I thought it would be fun to share some of those classic Hollywood couples whose relationships have stood the test of time - because we all know that is a rarity in Hollywood.  So here are 30 very inspiring couples whose romance and relationship have stood the test.

Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy

Married 52 years until her death
September 27, 1942 - September 11, 1994
This was a second marriage for both of them.
They have two children and Jessica has a daughter from her previous marriage.  I personally think they were the cutest couple and loved watching movies that they acted in together.  You could just see the love and respect that they had for one another.

Kirk Douglas and Anne Buydens

Married 58 years and still going
May 29, 1954 - 
This is a second marriage for both of them.
They have two sons and Kirk has two sons from his previous marriage which includes his actor son, Michael Douglas.  Kirk has survived a stroke. Anne has survived breast cancer. Both survived his infidelities.  Kirk: "I think I'm more romantic than ever. A woman knows the man she wants to marry and a man knows the woman he doesn't want to be without."

Fess Parker and Marcella Rinehart

Fess Parker and Marcella Rinehart
Married 50 years until his death
January 18, 1960 - March 18, 2010
Fess retired from acting in the 70s and became a real estate developer and owner operator of an award winning winery.  He and Marcella have two children.

Peter Shaw and Angela Lansbury

Married 53 years until his death
August 12, 1949 - January 29, 2003
This was a second marriage for both of them.
They have two children and Peter has a son from his previous marriage.  Peter managed and guided Angela's career until his death in 2003.  Looking at their wedding photo, you can see just how much she adores him.

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward

Married 50 years until his death
January 29, 1958 - September 26, 2008
This was a second marriage for Paul.  They have three daughters and Paul has two daughters and a son from his previous marriage.  His son died from a drug overdose in 1978 and Paul started the Scott Newman Center for drug abuse prevention in his memory.  They also developed camps that permit seriously ill youngsters to enjoy the great outdoors, at no cost to them or their families, in addition to creating Newman's Own, a food company from which they donate all post-tax profits and royalties to charity.  The Newmans lived away from the Hollywood environment, making their home in Westport, Connecticut. Paul was well known for his devotion to his wife and family and when asked once about infidelity, he famously quipped, "Why go out for a hamburger when you have steak at home?"

Roy Rogers and Dale Evans

Married 50 years until his death
December 31, 1947 - July 6, 1998
This was Roy's third marriage and Dale's fourth but they finally got it right and hit the jackpot with each other.  Their home was graced by nine children, some from their previous marriages, some together and some they adopted. They had 16 grandchildren and 30+ great-grandchildren.

Art Linkletter and Lois Foester

Art Linkletter and Lois Foester
Married 74 years until his death
November 26, 1935 - May 26, 2010
The Linkletter's enjoyed one of the longest marriages of any celebrity in America.  They had five children together.  Art has been quoted as saying, "To be married happily you have to have a sense of humor and you have to communicate. Don't go to bed mad. In other words -- and this is very important: You can disagree, but you don't get disagreeable. That "a-b-l-e" is the big difference between disagree. And by being friendly, you can always get by things. And then, of course, if you have a sense of humor. Lois and I might have an argument, and if I see it getting serious, I say: Honey, this is getting serious. If it gets much more serious, I'll have to kill you."

Dr. James McNulty and Ann Blyth

Dr. James McNulty and Ann Blyth
Married 53 years until his death
June 27, 1953 - May 13, 2007
Dr. James Vincent McNulty was an obstetrician in North Hollywood and Ann was introduced to him by his brother, singer-comedian Dennis Day. She was twenty-four; he was thirty-five when they married, but they didn't let the age difference bother them.  They have five children together. 

Bob Hope and Dolores DeFina

Married 69 years until his death
February 19, 1934 - July 27, 2003
Dolores put her singing career on hold to be at Bob's side and to raise their children, they adopted four and became great advocates for adoption.  They were very patriotic and performed at more than 200 USO tours to entertain our troops, including annual Christmas tours for 35 consecutive years.  They both were centenarians, he living to be 100 and she living to be 102.

Charles Boyer and Pat Paterson

Married 44 years until her death
February 14, 1934 - August 24, 1978
Ten days after their first meeting they were married.  That must have been some whirlwind romance!  Unlike most such elopements, their marriage was a huge success and they were considered one of Hollywood's happiest couples.  They had one son who died at the age of 20 while playing Russian Roulette.  When Pat died from a brain tumor, Charles was so devastated that he committed suicide two days later.

George Burns and Gracie Allen

Married 38 years until her death
January 7, 1926 - August 27, 1964
When they first started working together, Gracie was engaged to another man, but that didn't stop George.  He carried a ring around in his pocket for four years until she finally agreed to marry him.  Their marriage was somewhat daring for those times, considering his Jewish and her Irish Catholic upbringing.  When she died at the age of 69 from a heart attack, George was devasted.   Gracie was the love of his life and in the 32 years he lived after her death, he never remarried.  Once a month he would visit the tomb where she was buried and have conversations with her about what was happening in his life.  They have two adopted children 

James Cagney and Billie Vernon

James Cagney and Billie Vernon
Married 63 years until his death
September 28, 1922 - March 30, 1986
James and Billie spent much of their private time at their farms, they had an 100 acre farm at Martha's Vineyard and a 750 acre farm in Dutchess County, NY, so possibly staying out of the limelights of Hollywood helped strengthen their marriage.  The also adopted two children.

Robert Preston and Catherine Craig

Married 46 years until his death
November 9, 1940 - March 21, 1987
Their marriage survived the heartache of not being able to have children and his extra-marital affairs but they stayed devoted to one another.

Charles Lane and Ruth Covell

Married 71 years until her death
April 12, 1931 - November 30, 2002
Charles and Ruth are another couple who had one of the longest Hollywood marriages.  Despite his stern, hard-hearted demeanor in films and television, friends and acquaintances seemed to have unanimously described Charles as a warm, funny and kind person.  Maybe this had something to do with their marriage's longevity.  They had two children.

Charlton Heston and Lydia Clarke

Married 64 years until his death
March 17, 1944 - April 5, 2008
They knew they were in love with each other after their very first date.  While out for a Spring stroll, they passed a little country church, deciding to go inside, they emerged married.  One reason they remained married for so long could be the fact that they celebrated every anniversary together, no matter the circumstances or the travel required to do so.  They have two children.

Tony Martin and Cyd Charisse

Married 60 years until her death
May 15, 1948 - June 17, 2008
This was a second marriage for both of them.  One reason that could have lead to their long lasting marriage was the fact that they put it first.  When offered the lead role opposite Gene Kelly in An American in Paris, Cyd opted not to take the role, instead deciding to have a child with Tony.  They have a son and Cyd has a son from her previous marriage.

Jeffrey Hayden and Eva Marie Saint

Married 61 years and still going
October 28, 1951 - 
Now here's a couple that puts family first, over the years Eva Marie turned down at least three movie deals to be with her children, they have two, and on many occasions had it written into her contract that her husband and kids accompany her.

James Garner and Lois Clarke

James Garner and Lois Clarke
Married 56 years and still going
August 17, 1956 - 
James and Lois met at a political rally and were married 14 days later.  He adopted her daughter from her previous marriage and they have a daughter together.  He has been quoted as saying "Marriage is like the Army; everyone complains, but you'd be surprised at the large number of people who re-enlist." and about his wife, "It was love at first sight. The 'thunderbolt.' She was as beautiful as she was sweet... I was nuts about her from the moment we met. Still am."

Alfred Hitchcock and Alma Reville

Married 54 years until his death
December 2, 1926 - April 29, 1980
Everyone knows what a great director Hitchcock was, but he trusted and relied on Alma's expertise throughout his career.  She is credited with writing contributions to 29 of his films and also served in a variety of other capacities, including editor and assistant director.  Hitchcock never questioned her opinion; any idea or input she offered was put into affect, and she was his biggest fan.  They have one daughter.

Jimmy Stewart and Gloria Hatrick McClean

Jimmy Stewart and Gloria Hatrick McClean
Married 44 years until her death
August 9, 1949 - February 16, 1994
Before they were married, Jimmy was somewhat of a playboy saying that he could never choose just one girl to settle down with.  Then he met Gloria and at the age of 41, he popped the question.  This was his first marriage and her second.  They had twin daughters and she had two sons from her previous marriage, one of which was killed in the Vietnam war.  They were devoted to each other and after her death he spent the next couple of years just puttering around in their garden, talking to her.  He missed her terribly and it begin to take a toll on his health and within three years, he was gone as well.  

Jack Lemmon and Felicia Farr

Married 38 years until his death
August 17, 1962 - June 27, 2001
This was a second marriage for both of them.  They have a daughter together and each have a child from their previous marriages.  I would guess that funny man Jack kept them laughing the entire marriage.

Carlo Ponti and Sophia Loren

Married twice and together for a total of 57 years until his death
September 17, 1957 - 1962 annulment
April 9, 1966 - January 10, 2007
When they first met, Sophia was 16 and Carlo was 38, and married with children.  They secretly began seeing each other while Carlo tried to get a divorce which proved difficult, it took eight years and a Mexican judge to grant him his divorce from his first wife.  Two lawyers stood in for he and Sophia, and they were then considered married by proxy.  But not in Italy.  The Vatican condemned the marriage outright, accused Ponti of bigamy and Sophia of concubinage.  They spent years trying to appease the Italian authorities and in 1962 had no choice but to agree to an annulment.  It took another four years to finally acquire his divorce and they finally were legally married.  Of their marriage, Carlo felt that, given their long marriage against all odds, is quoted as saying “we are a phenomenon that’s beyond their belief. It’s almost as if they resented us.” Ponti would say, “I have done everything for love of Sophia. I have always believed in her.”  They have two sons together and he has two children from his previous marriage.

Karl Malden and Mona Greenburg

Karl Malden and Mona Greenburg
Married 70 years until his death
December 18, 1938 - July 1, 2009
Another of the longest marriages in Hollywood, this was the only marriage for both of them.  They have two daughters.  Karl has been quoted as saying in regards to their marriage,  "If I have been fortunate enough to build a life of which I can be proud, then Mona is the foundation on which that life was built."

Ricardo Montalban and Georgiana Young

Ricardo Montalban and Georgiana Young
Married 63 years until her death
October 26, 1944 - November 13, 2007
It is said that Ricardo fell in love with Georgiana, who is Loretta Young's half sister, before he even met her.  He carried a picture of her around in his wallet plus kept a scrapbook of her, and finally arranged to have a blind date with her.  They were married just days after they met and have four children together.  Ricardo has been quoted as saying, "I have an intellectual commitment. I play by the rules. Why say 'until death do you part' unless you plan to do it?" 

Norman Lloyd and Peggy Craven

Married 75 years until her death
June 29, 1936 - August 30, 2011
They considered their marriage one of the greatest accomplishments of their Hollywood careers.  And they should considering they made it 75 years with one of the longest and happiest Hollywood marriages.  They have two children. 

Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee

Married 56 years until his death
December 9, 1948 - February 4, 2005
When asked what it was that made the fullness and longevity of their relationship possible Ruby responded, "Some of our best times were just talking to each other, and as we got older, we talked about everything. There was nothing we couldn't tell each other, nothing too private for us to share."  This was Ossie's only marriage and the second for Ruby.  They have three children.

Ronald Reagan and Nancy Davis

Married 52 years until his death
March 4, 1952 - June 5, 2004
It is said that they walked hand in hand always, and they often left love notes for one another.  A press secretary is quoted as saying, "They never took each other for granted. They never stopped courting."  Charlton Heston, their friend, said they probably had the greatest love affair in the history of the American Presidency.

Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara

Married 58 years and still going
September 14, 1954 - 
Hollywood's funny couple, for many years they performed together and still managed to maintain a home life.  This is the only marriage for both of them and they have two children, both actors, Amy Stiller and Ben Stiller.

Eli Wallach and Anne Jackson

Married 64 years and still going
March 5, 1948 - 
One of the most successful marriages in Hollywood, they have frequently acted together.  When asked what was the secret of their long marriage Wallach said, "I don't know. I didn't want to get divorced. I loved her. And we fight and argue and all this stuff, but we get along."   They have three children.

Jennings Lang and Monica Lewis

Married 40 years until his death
January 1, 1956 - May 29, 1996
This was the only marriage for him and the second marriage for her.  When they married, she moved her career to the back burner to become a wife and mother although she never stopped performing.  He was an innovative MCA/Universal Studios production executive and she had featured roles in several of his blockbuster movies.  They have three children.

And finally, I thought I would share our wedding photo with you.

Married 21 years and still going
November 29, 1991 -
This is the second marriage for me and the third for the Mister.  What makes our marriage work?  A love and devotion to one another, commitment, respect and forgiveness, and as much romance as we can squeeze in.

A relationship is not created in an instant, its formed over time through a variety of influences, and it's certain that no influence has a more positive and profound effect on a relationship than romance.

I hope you have enjoyed this series, I know I sure have.

Monday, November 26, 2012

My Origami Owl Locket

I recently discovered Origami Owl through a friend who has become an Independent Designer for the company.  The business was started in 2010 by a 14 year old girl wanting to save up enough money to purchase a car by the time she was 16.  - It always thrills me to see young folk succeeding at their goals.

The slogan for Origami Owl is this - "You tell stories with words...we tell ours with jewelry".  There's what they call "Living Lockets" in which you choose charms to place inside to tell your story.  Every locket is custom designed with your choices to tell your story or represent the things you love.  There are so many different ways to customize and create a piece of jewelry that is truly unique to you.

Origami Owl

Here are some examples of what you can create.

Origami Owl Custom Jewelry

Origami Owl Custom Jewelry

Origami Owl Custom Jewelry

Origami Owl Custom Jewelry

And here is my own personal locket and how it's designed today.  That is part of what makes these so awesome, you can change them out and mix them up with your different charms, dangles, etc. and basically have a different piece every time you wear it.  Or, have more than one!

Origami Owl Custom Jewelry

Inside my locket you will find a heart and the initial "D" for my Mister, a doggie bone for my English Mastiff, Tucker, a kitty for my British Shorthair kitten we are getting in a couple weeks, as of yet, still unnamed, a red high heel for my love of fashion, and cherries to represent my retro style.  I've also attached a Victorian key dangle and a heart shaped lock.  The dangles clip on with a lobster claw clasp so you can switch them out.  In the future I plan on filling my locket with my 6 kids birthstones and another one for my 7 grandkids.  And I'm sure there will be others, the possibilities are endless.

If you haven't ever heard of them, please check it out.  I truly love my locket and I know you will too!

Saturday, November 24, 2012

My New Hats

I wanted to share my new cloche hats with you that I talked about here.  I've been wanting to find a good winter hat and I thought these two were darling.   What do you think?  I love the feather details on both of them.

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

I found them at TJ Maxx for about $15 each, which makes them even better since I am trying to ease myself into hat wearing and discover which style works best for my face before I invest in some vintage ones.  Here I am wearing the hats.  What do you think, does this style suit me?

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

cloche hat with feather detail

You can't really tell from the photos but the one with the brown feathers has a little turned up side opposite the feathers which makes it sit differently on my head.  The feathered side is lower.  The other hat isn't like that, it is level all the way around.  I can't decide which one I like better.

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Keys to Romance

Vintage couple, breakfast in bed

If you missed the previous installments of our Romance series, you can start here with Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.  

In this segment, I wanted to give some age old thoughts on the keys of a long lasting romance.  What did couples of the past value as important aspects of their relationship and use as the foundation to building a rock solid marriage?  Here are some of those elements that I feel still hold true today.

Spending time together should be a priority.  Remember when you were dating?  You always made time for each other.  Making time for your spouse and using that time to "reconnect" shows that your relationship comes first.  Take time to relax together, maybe lounging out on the deck, stretched out on the bed, or even just sitting at the dining room table.  Just knowing that you are willing to devote some of your time to your mate will go a long way in deepening the relationship.

Without trust there can be no romance.  Every effort should be made to establish and maintain trust and it begins with you.  You should be a trustworthy person for your spouse.  Open up, voice your true feelings and encourage the same in return.  When your spouse shares, make sure to treat his feelings with respect and love.  Make sure that you allow the time and opportunity for breaches of trust to be repaired and always accept an apology graciously.

This is one of the most important elements in a successful relationship and can be sent in a variety of ways such as body language, in writing, and of course, verbally.  As often as possible, tell your spouse that you want, need, and love them.  Try a warm look from across a crowded room, blow a kiss, give a loving smile, knowing nod, wink, or flirtatious glance.  Also, try to keep each other up to date on your whereabouts.  It's nice to know that you can easily reach each other in case of an emergency.  Remember not to just focus on the things your spouse is doing wrong but also tell him when he is doing things right, compliment him.

Couples need to be watchful that their manners, speech, and actions match the love and respect they feel for their partner.  Harsh words, raising your voice, and hostile body language convey disrespect and can inflict pain.  Public displays of respect are uplifting so when in a social setting, be sure that your spouses needs are met.  Show appreciation for each others role in the family, regardless of who does what.  This support can give inspiration and courage to tackle each day.  Make sure you only say positive things about him to other people.

Laughter is a necessary part of life and having a sense of humor is important to keeping life in balance.  Playful bantering can be a cherished part of your relationship.  Joke around with each other using warm and wholesome humor.  Establishing a mood that is conducive to comfort and relaxation will compliment romantic endeavors.

Every marriage has its division of labor associated with, and in support of the family.  Romance, and many of the gifts it bestows on the marriage, is increased when both of you cooperatively serve the family and lighten each other's burdens.  Work along side each other and share each others company while doing a job.  Try trading off chores on a weekly or monthly basis or volunteer to fully undertake a certain duty in order to free him up for some much needed rest or hobby time.  Remember to perform these tasks cheerfully and without expectation of a favor being returned.

Conflicts exist in all relationships and constructive criticism and disagreements are necessary in a healthy marriage.  Frequently, the cause of a disagreement is stress outside the marriage.  Try to be sensitive to what might be underlying the tension.  During an argument, choose your words carefully so as to minimize hurt feelings.  Be mindful of your body language and stay on the subject at hand, don't bring up a list of past offenses.   To truly put a disagreement to rest, both parties must forgive and forget.  Take the lead on this one and remember the old adage that a couple should never go to bed mad or leave the house angry has significant merit.

A long standing, loving relationship isn't created in an instant, it's formed and developed over time through a variety of influences and there's no influence that has a more positive or profound effect on a relationship than romance.  Using these keys as a foundation for  building your marriage will help assure a long lasting romance.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Thanksgiving Traditions

November turkey calendar
I can safely say that besides Christmas, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, partly because I love to eat, but mainly because of what this holiday means to me.  The thankfulness of all that has been bestowed upon me.  To me, the very word, Thanksgiving, evokes images of family, in which I have been richly blessed.  It also brings to mind roasted turkey, an assortment of pies, a change in the weather, and the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade.  And let's not forget about the Black Friday shopping extravaganza.  

Sales shoppers
The Holidays in my family are steeped in tradition.  For Thanksgiving, we women gather at my parents house and work long hours preparing the feast.  

Vintage mom & daughter roasting turkey

Vintage mom & daughter preparing turkey
The parade is always commencing on the tv while we create our delectables and it helps keep the kiddos occupied.  Most of the men folk in my family are hunters and spend the morning hours out in the woods.   

Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade 1950 - 1951

Macy's Parade 1959 Popeye
Dinner is always buffet style because our family is too huge to actually all fit around a table.  

Vintage Mom carrying turkey to table

Vintage mom and kids carrying turkey
My father always carves the turkey and then he blesses our food.

Saturday Evening Post girl saying blessing
After the meal, we spend a lot of time just sitting around enjoying each others company and then we break out the sales papers and begin our plan of action for the craziness that is Black Friday.

Vintage coke advertisement for Thanksgiving
Does your family have any Thanksgiving Day traditions?